My Friends Hated My Boyfriend, But Were They Right?

I’ve dated a variety of men in my life, from the cliche small-town country boy, to a sleazy big-city musician, to an introverted artist, and now to one of my lifelong best-friends turned boyfriend. In classic Taylor fashion, I fell head-over-heels in love with all of them (remarkably fast), and started bringing them around all of my friend’s events and parties ASAP. For me, my friends are like my family here in Toronto; I live pretty far from my actual family, so I’m lucky to have some of the most supportive and loving people here that I could ask for.

So what do you do when your friends don’t love, or even like, your boyfriend?

Not all of my friends hated all of my boyfriends, but there were always a few that just didn’t quite click. At first, this was my worst nightmare coming to fruition: I used to think that the two worlds would collide seamlessly, and everyone would love each other as much as I loved all of them. But the reality is, this isn’t how it always works out.

So I wondered…

Do I listen to myself, or do I listen to my friends? It turns out that answer isn’t totally black and white. For example, their not liking “band boy” because he cheated on me and made me feel like crap about myself? Valid. Their not liking “artist” because they have different senses of humour? Not valid.

At the end of the day, all you can do is your best. If your friends have valid reasons for not liking your boyfriend, try to listen to them. Remember, they do only have your best interests at heart.

Ever been in the same situation? It’s tricky. I would love to hear about how you navigated this situation! Comment down below.

xx,

Taylor

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