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The Confidence Code

8/28/2014

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I was listening to the CBC driving one morning and ended up being seriously late for an appointment because these two incredible women were being interviewed.  Well, three.  The first was Christine Lagarde, managing director of the IMF, who then led into an interview with Katty Kay and Claire Shipman.  They had just released a book which they co-authored and Lagarde just happened to be one of their subjects so it all tied together quite nicely.  The topic, confidence, and more specifically confidence in women (or lack there of).  The book that Kay and Shipman had just penned was called The Confidence Code and when I was hearing some of the statistics that they found in their research not only was I intrigued, I made Indigo my very next stop to get a copy.

The Confidence Code.  The Science and Art of Self-Assurance – What Women Should Know.

The book starts off at the opening practice of the Washington Mystics, a WNBA team.  Kay and Shipman were on the hunt for raw confidence and what better  place to find it than on the ball court.  What the two are quick to display is that even within the toughest, most cut throat environments, women struggle with confidence.  From the Pentagon to the basketball court an easy correlation was made, time and time again women attributed their successes and place in their lives and careers as dumb luck.  Yes, they acknowledged that they worked hard but there was always an insecure nod to it not being because of sheer talent and deservedness but rather luck – right place, right time.

When speaking to honors graduate from the U.S. Naval Academy at Annapolis (one of the most incredibly grueling programs in the world), Michaela Bilotta said this:

“I think it definitely took me longer than it would have or some other people to admit that I was worthy of it,”  Bilotta confessed.  “Even though from the outside, I can look in and think, you did all the work and you earned your spot.”  She paused.  We were sitting with her in her parent’s basement, which we noticed, was overflowing with sports gear, trophies, and academic plaques – the souvenirs of raising five determined girls.  No clues that would have suggested a childhood that didn’t nurture self-belief.  “I just doubted it,” she said, shaking her head.  “I wondered, ‘how did this happen?  I got so lucky.’”

And so on and so on.  Case after case of women with self doubt, even the authors of the book admit to silently cutting themselves down, playing a tape in their heads that they aren’t worthy, or good enough.

Once the stage is set with ample examples of gendered lack of confidence the book moves on to giving the reader a ton of information on the brain, where confidence comes from and what it is.  There were so many points in the book that were like little light bulb or A-HA! moments.  So many that if anyone was near me while I read, I was reading it aloud.  It was so eye opening that I couldn’t help but blurt it out.

Being someone who has always struggled with confidence, this book was such a wealth of information.  Add that to the fact that I am very conscious of not wanting to pass off my insecurities and self doubts onto my daughter, it was so insightful and an amazing tool that I will continue to reference and explore.

In an effort to not give away the entire book I will stop blabbing on about it and encourage you to pick up a copy for yourself.  It’s concise, well written and researched and easy to read.  Check it out!  And their website is pretty awesome too!

 

xxo,

COCO

 

 

Pin-spiration

8/27/2014

Pinterest is my favorite place online to get lost.  Here are some Pins that inspired me this week:

 

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Smuggler’s Cove, St Lucia via

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Kate via

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Find more of our inspiration HERE

xxo,

COCO

 

Front of The Line Turns 25! (+ contest)

8/26/2014

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I live for concerts. There’s just something about listening to your favorite music live with a ton of people who love it too. Singing along at the top of your lungs with the magicians that crafted the soundtrack to your life. One of the major reasons I love American Express is their Front Of The Line program because it affords me and every other Cardmember early access to tickets to shows that I’m dying to see that would otherwise be sold out.  And not only to concerts, but to theater & comedy shows, exclusive dining experiences, movie premiers, cultural experiences and even NYFW!

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Front Of The Line started right here in Toronto 25 years ago with a pre-sale of tickets for Phantom of the Opera. Since then millions of tickets have been sold making it the reason many people can’t live without their Amex. I recently got the opportunity to celebrate their 25 Anniversary with them at the John Legend concert at the Molson Amp. Myself and a collection of my fave bloggers and journalists gathered with the CEO of Amex , David Barnes and John May, President of Live Nation -Ontario Region – for cocktails and delicious snacks by Barque on a cool VIP patio as the sun set and then headed in to see John Legend belt out all of my favorites. And boy can he belt it out. His voice was pitch perfect. He moved seamlessly from hit to hit giving interesting asides like how he was turned down from 7 labels before getting signed and how he crafts every song by sitting at his piano and just mumbling words to a melody. I was in awe of how truly incredible his voice was, unassisted by auto tune or any other fancy equipment. That man is a true talent. The only thing that would have made the concert better was if his wife Chrissy popped out. Love. Her.

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Since not everyone was able to take part in the 25th Anniversary celebrations at the John Legend concert, Amex wants to give you a chance to experience what it’s like to be a Cardmember with the best. During the month of August, Amex is hosting 25 daily Twitter giveaways for concert tickets to the hottest shows and dining experiences. To enter all you have to do is follow them on Twitter @AmexCanada and use the hashtag #FOTL25 when answering the daily question that Amex poses and bam! You’re entered. Good luck !

 

xxo,

COCO

Snacks That Make You Feel Good! – The Indulgent Purist

8/25/2014

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I don’t know about you, but I’m a snacker. The kind of girl that eats 3 smalls meals a day + 2 snacks (that’s my regimented routine during the week, after 5pm on Friday, well, that’s another story!)  Being constantly on the go requires a lot of food planning to make sure my choices stay healthy and it is not always easy.  When I heard that my friend Courtney was starting a new Vegan snack company, I was overly excited to taste her products.  I may or may not have had a few (too many) of her delicious treats, all in one testing session. But it was for research though…

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Courtney like so many of us, ate everything under the moon until her body started reacting to what she was putting in it. Stomach issues, light headaches all while the doctor told her that she was perfectly healthy.  Courtney took the matter into her own hands and eliminated processed foods from her diet, started juicing, slowly but surely cut dairy and meat and only eating seafood occasionally. These new acquired eating habits were basically a game changer and long gone were those headaches and stomach issues.

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