Earlier this week I came across an interesting article inside the Toronto Star called Pitch in at home, Dad, for your daughter’s future. According to the Department of Psychology at the University of British Columbia, dads should start scraping plates and mopping floors if they want their daughters to become CEOs or surgeons.
After surveying more than 300 school-aged children and their parents, the results clearly indicated a significant attitude shift in female offspring who witness shared housework between their mom and dad.
“Girls told researchers they wanted to be doctors, police officers, accountants, or, in the case of one 7-year-old, “a scientist who helps doctors study germs to know what medications to give people,” said Alyssa Croft, the study’s lead author.
“It makes sense,” said sociologist Melissa Milkie, a University of Maryland professor who has written extensively about the impact of parents’ work-family roles. “It suggests some explicit messages are happening in the homes where dads are folding laundry. Kids see the big picture of what it takes to do a non-traditional role. They’re seeing what’s working in the home and that mom’s not responsible for everything.”
Furthermore, I’m really digging how much we are seeing the tables turn. Men are encouraged to take on new responsibilities not only around the house but in the relationship too. Do you remember the October 2013 issue of Toronto Life Magazine called POWER WIVES & Their House Husbands: She makes the money. He makes dinner.
The January 2012 issue of Bloomberg Businessweek called “The Perfect Husband” which argues that behind every great woman is her stay-at-home hubby.
As we enter marriage and have our own families, our generation will encounter a completely different experience than our parents did. And I believe there is no right or wrong answer here, it’s just a matter of having “different arrangements” to suit the needs of the household. But it now brings up the question
:: If a father’s role in the home highly influences his daughter’s career aspirations, then in what way does a working mom effect her::
There’s a new generation of female breadwinners making incredible sacrifices to achieve the career they want. And as a female who also craves to have it all, it now brings up the question
:: Is my success solely dependent upon a partner who is willing to help hands on::
More and more couples are analyzing their family dynamic and switching places. It is reported that 7 of the 18 women who are currently CEOs of Fortune 500 companies have or at some point had a stay-at-home husband. This list includes: Bare Essentials Chairman, Leslie Blodgett, Xerox CEO Ursula Burns, PepsiCo’s CEO Indra Nooyi, IMB’s new CEO Ginni Rometty and more…
“Men are suddenly seeing what it’s been like for women throughout history,” says Linda R. Hirshman, a lawyer and author of Get to Work , who recommends that women “marry down.”
I understand, times are changing and as much as I love to see a strong woman get ahead in her career, I don’t look at marrying a “stay-at-home” dad as ‘marrying down’, I see this arrangement as a unique partnership which benefits the entire family. Whether it be a dad or mom who stays at home to raise the family, it is by far one of the hardest jobs in the world and should be appreciated and viewed as a positive contribution.
This trend has become so widespread that dads are now launching support groups and blogs to help deal with the stigma attached to their new roles such as: freeloaders and “kept” men.
“By going against the grain, men get to stretch their parenting abilities and women can advance. Top power jobs are so time-consuming and difficult that you can’t have two spouses doing them and maintain a marriage and family,” states Coontz, a family studies professor at Evergreen State College in Olympia.
Personally, I do love the idea of a man who cooks and cleans [laughs], and I love reading about how it will affect my daughter, however, it still leaves me wondering if a woman can it all: the growing career, the helpful hubby, the hot sex life, the beautiful kids, the perfect house while maintain her sanity. This is one blog post where I don’t have all the answers, so I’m looking to you, the reader, to find out your opinion about…
:: How has your dad’s role in the household influenced your life and career choices::
:: Is it possible for women to have it all::
:: And I’ve gotta ask, what are your thoughts about a stay-at-home husband::
:: Are you currently in a relationship where the roles are reversed::
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Peace & Love,