This week on CWC + Friends, we sat down with Brad Lamb, my ex of 14 years to chat all things co-parenting. Listen to A Conversation Between Coco and her Ex-Husband Brad Lamb on Co-Parenting, Healing From Divorce, and How They Make It Work.
This topic has come up lots so I figured why not record an episode with the girls and ask even the toughest of questions to the father of my eight-year-old daughter, Harlowe Lake.
Let me start by saying none of this has been easy. It has taken Brad and I years to get to this point of co-parenting and we still have our days of feeling like all we want to do is give up but for the sake of our beautiful daughter we moved through the pain as individuals and came out on the other side together.
A lot of work is involved that requires vulnerability and transparency. One part of it is self-reflection and working on bettering yourself, then the other half is having those uncomfortable conversations with your partner and those around you, in order to let go of the ego(s) and decide what matters most. All of the above is a major key in moving forward in any relationship, especially when it comes to co-parenting.
Brad shares what it was like to grow up with the relationship he had with his father and how his “work ego” is much different than his “father ego”. Click to listen on Spotify or Apple and find out exactly what that means to him.
We discuss how we both got through our divorce and growth that has taken place over the past few years to have the co-parenting relationship we have today. A journey that has been hard as hell but at the end of the day, totally worth it.
It’s hard for most to separate these egos but Brad shares how his mindset shifts when it comes to raising our daughter. Brad shares the hardest part about co-parenting from his perspective and the importance of knowing your place. He really did say out loud, the woman is always boss. I’ll take it, Cowes!
But seriously, our biggest takeaways from this conversation would have to be understanding the importance of being reasonable and why we should always lead with love under all circumstances. You have all been with me on this ride and know the heartbreak I’ve been through, but I am so proud of where we are now and am happy to share this long overdue conversation with all of you.