#CheckYourself: Where Is The Love?

This is the final week of our #CheckYourself series, dedicated to reminding you to take care of yourself from the inside out, acknowledge your worth and re-evaluate the relationship you have with yourself and those around you. If you haven’t kept up, click here to access our other posts focused on mind, body and #life.

Love always wins, isn’t that what they say? Love is such a passionate feeling and for those who have yet to be in love, you will one day and words are simply not enough to describe those feels. What we challenge you beauties to do is to prioritize loving yourself just as much as you do your loved ones. We are so accustomed to putting ourselves and our needs last which amazes our team because we are so kind to the peeps in our life (most of the time), but when it comes to ourselves, we’re quick to emphasize flaws and “shortcomings”. The difference in the way we speak to others vs. ourselves showcases a major disconnect.

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship with your S/O, it’s time to let it go. If the pandemic has taught us anything it’s that life is too damn short to be unhappy in your relationship. And for our singles, you gotta love you some you before “giving” your heart, time and energy to anyone else. Ask yourself the following and explore some resources and tactics to have a better relationship with yourself and your loved one(s).

*enter non-judgment zone*


  • Do you feel challenged in your relationship? 
  • Do you catch yourself relying on your partner 80% of the time? 
  • On a scale of 1-10, how happy are you with your life? 
  • On a scale of 1-10, how happy are you in your relationship?  
  • Have you seen an incline or decrease in your sex life? #COVID
  • Did you get closure in your previous relationship? 
  • Have you reached a place of self-acceptance over the past six months? 
  • Looking for ways to overcome doubt in yourself and in your relationship? (Keep reading…)   



We feel like the stigma around therapy is slowly but surely going out the door, as it should! Talking to someone who has a non-bias POV is life-changing and there is absolutely no reason to feel any type of way about seeking out a therapist. Once you start seeking a therapist, you may actually find yourself pleasantly surprised at the potential referrals that come through once you start openly talking about wanting a therapist. Since times are weird right now, virtual therapy is very accessible and there are a lot of matches out there on a global scale. See some links below for how to find the right therapist for you, Cowes!

Virtual Therapy + How To Find Your Match

How to Find A Virtual Therapist + Why It Might Help

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Re-Evaluate The Way You Talk To Yourself

Start with “I am” to get you where you want to be. Manifest actualizations and tell yourself you can and you will until you start believing it. Give yourself grace and be kind to yourself, especially on those days where you are being down on yourself for the way you look, or something you said that you haven’t stopped beating yourself up over. Trust us, we’ve all been there. And now we’re here to say, it’s time to let that shit go and focus on all the good things coming and all the incredible qualities that make YOU who you are. OK?

Find Your Independence

You have to ask yourself when you’re at peace and riding solo, what genuinely brings you joy? Eliminate thoughts around other people’s opinions and focus on the activities and things that are always guaranteed to spike your dopamine levels.

Also major to note here that whenever someone from our team gets into a relationship, we are here to tell them that yes, your new S/O is important but never more important than you and your friendsies. When your partner’s life becomes your life, vice-versa it’s not healthy. We know COVID does make this a little more difficult, just like COVID has for every other area in our life LOL.

Speak Up (Life Is Too Short)


We build up having uncomfortable conversations with people in our life so much more than we need to. That almost always after we actually have the conversation, we think why did I make such a big deal about bringing this up? AND the relief after you get it off your chest is unmatchable.

Buy Yourself a (New) Vibrator 

Yes, you read that correctly! Treat yo’self, especially if you’re with some of our team on their dry spell. See three fan favourites to practice your pleasure.

Understand Self-Acceptance is a Forever Journey

Read it again. Some days are better than others and we all know that. It’s so easy to forget BUT self-acceptance, self-love and self-growth are forever tings! So, remind yourself, feelings of fulfilment and being content and happy with yourself doesn’t happen overnight. At the end of the day, all you have is you. Build up yourself just as much as you do the people around you because you is worth it, Cowes!

Have any advice to share that we missed? Let us know down below or tag us here. 


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